Dhirah Abdullah

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Dhirah Abdullah

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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Aeisya - Birth Story

Waiting game is on

I have been working on the birth of my little princess since she was born. But, I did not get to finish it till she is almost 2 months old. Okay, let me try to finish it.

Here goes nothing.

My mom told me that baby has dropped. So, for me the clock is ticking - tick tock tick tock. But, I was still busy at work and I was so tired day in day out.

Since I had my appointment with Dr. Idora on the 23rd, she gave me 1 week of MC starting the 25th. Throughout the week, I was on nesting mode - preparing the hospital bag for the baby and the parents, cleaning, gathering baby's stuff together. At the same time, I was taking my own sweet time doing all those stuff as I was in 'recovering' mode from tiredness. 

Another appointment with Dr. Idora. Everything seemed fine however bad news approached. Dr. Idora will be out of town from 3rd-6th June for conference. How sad I was and worried! I really hope that my baby would come before she leaves or after her conference. But she did mention that Dr. Paul will be replacing her while she was gone. The good news was he supports natural birth.  

No sign of labor yet but my right eye was having an infection. 
So, I went to the a physician on the 3rd to get an ointment for the infected eye. Right after that, I went to Paradigm Mall to get some stuff. I walked around the mall and got myself tired. I tried to take things slow as I was worried that the labor might approach. First hint - a mother's instinct. 

4/6/2015 - The day has come
3.30am : I woke up for the usual toilet routine and I had my first labour sign (bloody show). I was counting the days till Dr. Idora comes back. When I was in labour the first time around, I gave birth to Ariz 2 days after the bloody show. I was happy maybe I will manage to give birth after Dr Idora's conference.

4.00am : The first surges came after the bloody show. I could not go back to sleep thinking and I was holding myself not to wake Afif up.

Throughout the day, I was trying to be passive, not doing anything. So, I ended up watching comedy shows and was laughing really hard. I messaged Kak Nadine Ghows (she was my birth instructor and I went to her for AMANI birth during my first pregnancy) a few times during the day to inform her and to be comforted. 

5.30pm : Afif messaged to tell me he was coming back home late and he wanted me to pick Ariz up from the nursery. Yes, my first son was at the nursery. Mama was too tired little munchkin. Imagine how I drove the car while having my surges.

After 6pm : I had constant surges and it was painful for me to sit hard wooden kitchen chair. So, I sat on the gym ball to feed Ariz. However, I kept going back to my bedroom to just concentrate on my surges. From there on, my parents took care of Ariz.

8.30pm - 9.45pm :  Afif came back and I was concentrating on the surges. Afif lit up the candle just like before. Then, I started to time my surges. My guts were telling me not to go to the hospital just yet but I was in doubt. 

So, I messaged Kak Nadine for her advice and opinion on going to the hospital since my water has not broke yet. It was hard for her to tell based on my situation (at that time, my surges 40second in duration, 3 minutes apart and I was waiting for my water to broke first) but she advised me to make my way if it was getting more intense. But, her message came in when I was already in the hospital

9.50pm :  My instinct now told me to go to the hospital. So, Afif was already ready and had the hospital bags in the car. I said goodbyes to my parents and especially to my boy, Ariz. Ariz wanted to follow and he started to cry. It's ok Ariz, come and visit mama and papa and little baby tomorrow ok?

The journey to Pantai Hospital, Bangsar was not as smooth as I wanted at that hour. It was raining before and Federal Highway was all jammed up.

10.30pm : Arrived at the hospital at last. I was being wheeled directly to the labour suite while Afif parked the car.
The nurse asked me to pass urine and them climbed up on to the bed. She strapped the CTG and did VE. Upon arrival, I was already 7cm dilated. So, that confirmed my hospital admission. 
One by one nurse came into the room to either take my temperature, blood pressure, if I wanted the gas to relieve the pain (twice) or personal details. I was annoyed, could not even concentrate on the surges and Afif was not there since he was asked to settle with the admission. 

Approximately 10.50pm : I was already feeling pushy but Afif and the doctor were not there yet. So, the nurse asked me to hold on till at least, my husband came back as she was messaging my back. 
The nurse asked if I have my birth plan and it was with Afif. So, I pointed out the major points on my birth plan - minimal VE (I was VE-ed three prior - the last VE, I was already 10cm, 20 minutes after the first VE), intermittent CTG, change into any position as I please, drink and eat whenever I want to. Alhamdulillah, she respected my birth plan. She even asked me if I had followed any hypnobirthing class. Sadly no, but I read and practiced the breathing technique. 
Suddenly, I felt my water broke and informed them.
Since I was already 10cm dilated and Afif was already in the room, the nurse said if I feel like pushing, go ahead. I did not even changed into the hospital gown. I changed my position to all-fours and started to breath out my baby as I was being coached by the nurse. Afif messaged my back over and over again while holding my hands. Then, the Dr. Paul arrived in the room and told us that we were doing a good job. Yes, I did feel the ring of fire. Dr Paul did ask Afif if he wanted to see the baby's head but he could not see it because I was holding onto his hands. Sorry sayang, just wanted to know you were there. 

11.02pm : Just within minutes, Alhamdulillah, I safely delivered my baby girl at week 38. Her birth weight was 2.93kg. I had to re-position myself as I wanted to have skin-to-skin session. We delayed the cord clamping for 15 minutes until it stopped pulsation. 

Dr. Paul and the nurses left us for sometimes for some privacy, initiate breastfeeding and birth the placenta. Placenta came out within 30 minutes and no drugs were taken. Alhamdulillah.

12 am : Dr Paul came back and stitch me up. To my surprise, it was not even 5 minutes to complete the whole procedure.

2am : We were given the green light to go to our room and rest. 

I was wide awake and so full of energy after the delivery. So, we informed our family and friends about the good news. I guess that was the oxytocin.

Syukur Alhamdulillah and we want to thank our family and friends who prayed for the safe delivery, Dr Paul and the nurses who respected my request, Kak Nadine for her support and advice and the Gentle Birthing Group, Facebook support group which gave me all the positive vibes. Alhamdulillah, another gentle normal birth for me. Syukur syukur.

If you feel like reading Ariz's birth story, click here.

Friday, July 17, 2015

Salam Aidilfitri

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri
Maaf Zahir Batin

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Maternity Photoshoot

DIY Maternity Photoshoot

Back in March, Afif, Ariz and I went to Terengganu for a friend's wedding. It was Afif's ex-schoolmate and he was one of the dulang boys.

While we were in Terengganu, we took the opportunity to take some maternity photos. Yes, we had CJ (Afif's friend) to be our photographer. Alhamdulillah, the weather was on our side. Thumbs up for the great lighting. 

Ariz was great though we had to chase him around to get the shots. But overall, he did great (after his nap). Mama and Papa are proud of you little guy.

Yes, it was a DIY. We brought along the props and took some inspiration from Pinterest, my go-to site! I love it so much as I'm not that creative.

Here's the result and I love it because it was DIY. Those pictures were taken behind Masjid Terapung.

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Welcome Aeisya

New addition

Dear readers, I'd like to present to you our latest addition

Aeisya Afif
4 June 2015
Pantai Hospital, Kuala Lumpur.

The post on the delivery will be up soon. I really hope so after the urut with the makcik urut and after all the rest I could get later. 

Yeah, our life changed overnight literally.

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Ariz swims

Ariz Swims

During Chinese New Year holiday, Afif and I did not plan to go anywhere but we had been wanting to bring him for a swim. The reason is Ariz loves water and would spend an ample amount of time during his bath time. 

Water excited him and why not bring him to a pool where water is everywhere. Maybe to any river or beaches later on.

We went twice for a swim - in Putrajaya and also in Bukit Jalil and his reaction was exactly the same.

Ariz's excited faces
We brought him to Hippopo Baby Spe & Wellness in Bandar Utama when he was 8 months old. Check out my blog post on it here. And at 16 months, he was excited as before.

Ariz's first swim at 8 months old

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Chinese New Year 2015

Happy Chinese New Year 2015

Wishing all of you a

Happy Chinese New Year 2015

Thursday, February 12, 2015

Current Faves

Current Faves

I love makeup and I have been in love with makeup since I was mid-20s. If you have been reading my blog, I have mentioned it before and I have been following a few beauty gurus on Youtube. Most of the products I use are some of the recommendation from them.

So, I'd like to share with you readers what I have been liking for the past few weeks and most of the time, I wear makeup during weekends. It does make me feel better whenever I go out.


Lancome Miracle Air De Teint
I love the finish on my face since I have a combination skin and it made my face look matte.

MAC Studio Fix Powder
I use this powder as setting powder after the foundation. But, most of the time I use it on its own and on its own, it covers my flaws nicely and I love it.
Maybeline Instant Age Rewind
I love how easy I can put this under my eyes. Yes, I have bad eyebags.


Yves Saint Laurent Effet Faux Cils Baby Doll
It does what it says. It volumes up my lashes and I am known with very short and not full lashes. Love it! It smells good too!

MAC Grain Eye shadow
It has this shine to it and I love putting it in my inner corner of my eyes though it looks nothing on the pan. It brightens my eyes and it gives such a good base for any eye shadow.

MAC Russian Red
I have liking red lips and it is hard for me to find a good red lips. Mac Russian Red is the one for me. Love it!


Earth Mama Angel Baby Natural Stretch Oil
I have been using this oil since I was pregnant with Ariz and I am still loving this! I love the smell and what it has done to my belly and not forgetting, it is organic.

I will be updating my current faves from time to time and to share what I have been loving. I am just trying a new thing to my blog and maybe I could add what I like in other category as well. Tell me what do you think, ok?